Solitude And Your Feel Great Journey

Some people need other people around them all the time or need to be talking with someone. They don't like to be alone. When we spend all our time talking with or being around people, we lose a sense of who we are. We lose touch with ourselves.

I'll be honest, having to be around people all the time is quite foreign to me. Being alone is so much a part of my life, built in from childhood, that I have difficulty when I am around people a lot. I need a huge amount of time alone each day to be able to cope. I think things through, schedule my own time and focus on myself. If I don't, I can't focus on other people when the time comes.

Some people have a paradigm that they need to be taking care of other people all the time and they think focusing on themselves is considered selfish. I completely disagree with that. If I don't have time to take care of my needs, when it comes to taking care of others, I try to get them to take care of me. I turn into a controlling, needy person. I can truly help others out of my own sense of fullness rather than out of emptiness. Pouring into myself is done when I am alone. It can only be done when I am alone or with people that I am completely comfortable with, but mostly alone.

If you schedule some time spent alone each day and allow it to be okay to take care of yourself, you will be more effective with others and more satisfied with your life. Here is a link to a website giving you more ideas on how to spend some alone time.